If you’ve ever wondered to yourself “Can hoarding be cured?” you’re in the right place.
Have you ever kept stuff because you just didn’t know what to do with it?
Perhaps you couldn’t bring yourself to throw it away, or thought it might come in useful later, so it got added to all the other stuff piling up at home… and people started to call you a hoarder.
My mum was a hoarder of magnitude. She kept things she didn’t really love, but was emotionally attached to, so couldn’t possibly throw away. She kept things that might come in useful later. She kept things that were broken and she might get round to fixing some day. She kept things that might be useful for other people one day.
My mum just loved to keep stuff.
So when my parents died, their 4 story house was packed to the brim.
It took me and my sister an entire year to clear out my parent’s house after they died.
We’d meet there at least one day a week and spend the whole day sorting through their stuff.
Some days it felt like we were getting nowhere.
Other days we’d find fun stuff and treasures that rewarded our herculean efforts.
Last week I had one such fun discovery when I was decluttering my own house.
I found a box that I’d not sorted through for 26yrs.
It was one of the boxes that I’d packed up whilst clearing out my parent’s house, bringing it home “to be sorted later”… little did I know at the time how much later that would be!
But, there is no such thing as ‘wrong timing’.
The Universe always gifts to us when we’re ready to receive.
In this box, I discovered some absolutely fabulous items:
Antique silver jewellery
Silver napkin rings
A little silver plated bowl and jug set
And my favourite find of all was a set of silver cutlery.
Just two of each item. One each. One for my mum and one for my dad. Now one each for me and John.
All of the silver was blackened and desperately in need of a polish.
So I set about polishing them, a couple of items at a time.
Oh the joy to see them sparkle!
Oh the joy that each newly shining piece exuded!
Now our dinner table is a pure delight.
Radiating joy and gratitude, our shiny silver cutlery sits proudly beside our shiny silver napkin rings, awaiting a feast.
Feasting has begun with omelette and chips (a popular dish in our house)… now what else is possible?
A happy result through finding treasure within my mum’s hoarded stuff.
So when it comes to it, can hoarding be cured?
Hoarding is about choices we don’t feel willing or able to make. So in keeping the stuff, it delays having to make that decision, make that choice about what to do with it. But what can happen is the more stuff we have, the more static the energy gets and the harder it becomes to decide.
It becomes overwhelming. We don’t get to experience the value of the items. We don’t get to experience the practical use and we don’t get to experience the joy that these items could be giving us.
Curing Hoarding isn’t about clearing stuff. It’s about letting go of the emotional attachment and meaning that we’ve placed on the stuff.
The whole ‘clearing out’ journey is a little like the personal development journey. Some days it can feel like you’re getting nowhere, like me and my sister in the early days of clearing out our parents house.
Other days, all sorts of treasures will reveal themselves to you.
They may be joyful memories that you want to polish up and give pride of place to.
They may be in the form of a more of energetic uncovering of skills and abilities that you’ve not yet claimed or acknowledged.
The way I see it, is it’s not about “can hoarding be cured”, as that’s focusing on what’s been decided is a problem. With most things, what I find is that when you are ready for change, the way to achieve that change will reveal itself to you. Maybe that’s why you’re reading this now.
What change would you like to see?
Are you ready to allow your treasures the space to shine?
Whatever your treasure is, Access Bars could give you access to uncovering your deeper hidden treasures.
Getting your Bars run is a way of decluttering your mind, making it easier for you to let go of emotions and attachments that no longer serve you.
Giving you more space
Less worrying about “can hoarding be cured” and more inspiration for uncovering your treasures so that they can bring you joy.
Clearing the way for you to allow your creativity, skills and abilities to shine.
I’ve found Access Bars to also be a wonderful way to dissipate the emotional gunk that can come up when decluttering, like polishing up the blackened silver.
Giving more ease with the process of letting go, physically, emotionally and beyond.
Allowing your inner treasures to shine through.
Allowing the treasures within your personal items to reveal themselves to you.
As you allow more space in your mind, you may notice that you are willing to allow more space in your world and the physical stuff that was hoarded can begin to be used and enjoyed or transitioned to another place.
So if you’re inspired to get your Access Bars run, come along to one of my upcoming classes and bask in the energetic decluttering magic to create more clarity and ease in all areas of life.
With ease, joy and clear, shiny spaces,
Niki ‘hidden treasure’ Duffy
P. S. Whether you’re choosing to physically declutter, mentally declutter, or both, Access Bars is a fabulous way for you to augment the process and have more ease with uncovering the treasures in your life. Check out my classes here: www.ChoosingForToday.com/Class