Holding the Nurturing Energy space for you

A few days ago, whilst I was hosting an Access Bars therapy swap, I came to this amazing realisation during receiving my treatment.

I was lying on the massage table Blissing out and receiving this amazingly nurturing energy when at one point in the treatment as my friend was running my Bars*, I got to a wonderful Aha! Moment.

nurturing energy

I had the sense of this delicious nurturing energy surrounding me like a huge halo.

It was as if I were being energetically cradled in a space of:

Total safety
Total nurturing
Totally supported
Magically Mindful
Peaceful

That indescribable space where you know everything is going to be OK.

It’s a moment of truth, trust and oneness like when a fragile newborn baby nestles cosily into you with a contented sigh relaxing their delicate little body warm against you, their gentle “newborn” fragrance and soft rhythmic breath.

Such honesty. Such vulnerability. Such a sense of gratitude to be gifted so much trust.

nurturing energy bliss

It was BLISS to be in that space.

And as I lay there basking in it, soaking up the sunshine of that supportive sensation, I realised that this is what we offer our clients.

This nurturing space.
This supportive space.
This space of “Everything is going to be Okay”.

How safe and supported do you feel when you think about your finances?

Does it inspire a sense of peace, joy, relaxation?

Or do you find yourself in a more yucky space of fear, anxiety, of lack and panic…

Perhaps even that horrible gut wrenching space of “not enough”, a space where the monkey mind is constantly hissing “there’s not enough money, there’s not enough time…” that place of prodding away at a hidden underlying revolting secret… that’s hissing at you “You’re not enough!”

That’s what it used to be like for me around money.

I’d go to this horrendous place of “not enough” every time I thought about money.

un nurturing energy

I never seemed to have enough.

No matter how hard I worked, it seemed that as soon as it came in, it was already spoken for, already spent.

I would spend hours agonising, losing sleep night after night about how the hell I was going to pay this or find the money for that.

A punishing, torturous energy.

No fun at all.

And what I realised that I do for my clients is hold the space for them.

Hold that space of nurturing energy, of “everything’s going to be OK” energy, that space where they can breath and relax into the delicious possibilities of change.

When we are choosing to change something, that thing often holds a whole lot of negative charge on it. We’ve often decided that it’s wrong and terrible and we are wrong and terrible for having it like that in our lives.

The thought of changing it can make us apprehensive, nervous and resistant to even going there, fearful of what we may find. Fearful that it’s going to be far worse than we thought it would be.

So fearful that we’d rather hide, bury our head in the pillows like we did as a kid when a scary movie was on….

not nurturing energy

What if you could face it if you had someone there for you?

Someone holding a safe space for you, so that you could take a peek from behind the pillows and realise that it is OK to come out and take a fuller look.

Once we are willing to look at something, to see it as it is:

Not worse than it is

Not better than it is

Simply look at it as it is.

That is the key to change.

That is the key to changing the way that something is showing up in our lives into something greater, something more, something that’s fun for us.

Out of the torture, into the fun.

My job is holding the space for you, the space of safe, nurturing energy where you can look at whatever it is you’re desiring to change without going to that wrongness and terribleness.

Holding the space where you know that everything is going to be OK. The space of trust, vulnerability and gratitude. The space where like the newborn baby can snuggle contentedly, you can sigh at the relief of being held in this magical space.

One of the questions I ask when I’m with a client either in person, online or in a group is:

What energy, space and consciousness can I be to allow [ insert client’s desired outcome] for you with total ease?

I have a space for you.

I invite you into the space of you.

fun nurturing energy

To accept my invitation, contact Niki HERE

What would it be like to have someone holding the space for you?

The space of nurturing energy, the space where you know everything’s OK, the space of ease and peace, fun and joy…

And whatever else you are asking for.

What could that create for you?

*What are Access Bars?
Which position of the Bars were being run when this happened? (Restructuring of Bodies)

Pulling In Money

I often get asked about skills for Pulling In Money that I use to create more in my life.

More money, more fun, more enjoyable travel and exploring, more of the things that I love to do and have in my life.

I was chatting with my friend and colleague Mary Hassett around this subject and she said:

“Why don’t we create a call about this?”

So that’s exactly what we did!

Pulling in money

Here’s a short video taster of Mary and I sharing one of the tools that we’ll dive deeper into on our call:

Ask

Simple? Yes.

Important? F*ck Yeah!

What fun can you have with this that you haven’t considered?

Bring your questions, bring your curiosity and we’ll share fun, practical tools to help you change all that funky stuff you’re fed up of doing around money.

Pulling In Money

Niki Duffy CFMW Shares Tools to Actualise More Money Into Your Life With Ease, assisted by the Fab Mary Hassett BF

Practical tools and energetic processes you can use to unlock the areas of your life where you limit the amount of money you can have and receive.

Is it time for something different ?

What could using these tools and processes do for you and your bank account?

Join us from wherever you are in the world to create a change with your money situation

When: Tuesday 1st May 2018
What time: 7pm UK Time
Where: Online
How Join: Link sent to your email after payment
How Much? TWO options:

1) Just £67

– or –

2) £27 when you invite 27 people

What you get:
Ask your questions live or send them in before hand

The Call Live
A Recording of the Call

This online Zoom Call will be on Tuesday 1st May at 7pm UK time.

To register and pay click here https://goo.gl/EiMdh1

To register and pay and invite 27 people click here https://goo.gl/39NY8A

What is Access Bars?

Many people ask “What is Access Bars?” and answering that question can be challenging…..Access Bars is a gentle yet effective, hands on head body processes that can create change in the recipient that goes beyond Mindfulness, Beyond Healing and allows Stress to Melt away.

It’s weird, it’s wonderful and can be difficult to put into words!

So what is Access Bars? Everyone experiences something different and each time you have your Bars run can be a different experience again.

My first time of having my Bars run, I had no idea what they were!

I was at a conference in the city of Chicago USA and hanging out with a fun group of Americans. One evening the suggestion was:

“Let’s all go out for dinner and then run some Bars”

Being a Brit and brought up with the English Pub culture where pub crawls are familiar…. I thought it was just the American way of saying we’d be eating out for dinner, then going on a pub crawl!

…But what is Access Bars?

Did you know there are 32 points on your head which, when gently touched, effortlessly and easily release anything that doesn’t allow you to receive? These points contain all the thoughts, ideas, beliefs, emotions and considerations that you have stored in any lifetime. This is an opportunity for you to let go of everything!

That’s one description of what Access Bars are. It’s a nurturing, relaxing experience and can create change in any area of your life.

Access Bars (often simply called “The Bars”) is a dynamic hands on process.

Access Bars

It involves a practitioner gently touching various points on someone’s head. That’s called “running your Bars”. It’s done fully clothed and during a “Bars” session which usually takes about an hour, you are free to talk, snore, cry or laugh.

Especially laugh.

One of the side effects many people find after getting their Bars run is more JOYfulness.

But I’m sure nobody wants that.

Here’s a short video about Access Bars:

What if you could Clear out all the clutter from your mind and relax into a space so nurturing that all stress and tension melts away?

That’s what Access Bars are to me. Clearing the mental clutter.

Beyond Mindfulness

When you have your Bars run, it’s a way of dissipating all the “Gunk” that’s built up and got stuck anywhere in you physically, emotionally and beyond. Letting go of layers and layers of stuff that no longer serves you.

Quietening the monkey mind, dissolving the relentless mind chatter and creating a space of peace that’s deeply nurturing and expansive.

The action of running Bars creates space.

Space of clarity. Space to choose more of you.

It’s a powerful process and yet very gentle. So gentle that it’s wonderful as a treatment for children. In fact, children are welcomed in Access Bars Classes and under 16yr olds can attend an Access Bars class for free and qualify as an Access Bars practitioner.

There’s a wonderful account on the Access Consciousness Blog about an Access Bars Facilitator who took the one day practitioner class to a school in India. You can read more about it here.

Created and developed by Gary Douglas and Dr Dain Heer, there are many accounts of how The Bars has changed lives around the world and a recent scientific study shows remarkable results:

The Effects of Access Bars on Depression & Anxiety

In fact, it was through being in a state of such deep depression that Dr Dain Heer was considering suicide when he first discovered The Bars. This video Gary and Dain share Dain’s story in a video that they made to share the Bars with people around the world on Suicide Awareness day here:

When people ask “What is Access Bars?”, you could say that The Bars begins the process of being able to receive.

When receiving a Bars Session, you can be sitting or lying down and it’s your opportunity to really melt into this wonderful experience and simply relax and receive.

Gary and Dain have a podcast radio show where they offer verbal processes and take live questions on a weekly basis. In this episode, the very first recording of their show, they talk about the beginning of Access Consciousness and Access Bars.

Listen HERE

People often ask where Access Bars comes from. They first came into the world in the 1990s and there’s more about the very beginnings in this blog post HERE

When people ask “What is Access Bars and what can it do for me?” there are so many different areas that Access Bars can create change, including reducing pain in the body, changing things that were previously considered to be unchangeable.

Bizarrely, One way to explain it is by asking questions…

Do you remember the last moment in your life when you were totally relaxed and nurtured and cared for?
Or has it been a little too long since you received healing and kindness without any judgment of your body or your being?

These questions give you a sense of the energy, space and consciousness that’s available to you when you have your Bars run.

Access Consciousness have a powerful selection of tools of which, The Bars is the core and others include:

Questions

Choice

Possibilities

Contribution

And NO JUDGEMENT.

What would it be like if you could just lay there… and let someone else do all the work?

What is Access Bars

Thousands of people have used Access Bars to change many aspects of their body and their life, including sleep, health and weight, money, sex and relationships, anxiety, stress and so much more.
At worst you will feel like you have just had a phenomenal massage. At best your whole life can change into something greater with total ease.

CLICK HERE to ask any questions

What is Access Bars and Does it help with Stress in the workplace?

As there is no special equipment or environment needed, many staff, employees and employers have found Access Bars to be of great contribution to the work place for:
Reducing stress,
Increasing Productivity and general enthusiasm,
Problem solving,
Creativity with projects,
And improving team work just to name a few things.

If you would like to discover more or chat about Access Bars, you can book yourself in for a free call with Niki HERE

If you would like to invite me (or another Access Bars Practitioner anywhere in the world) to your workplace for a FREE day of Access Bars taster treatments, email your workplace request HERE including your workplace country and location.

How Did Access Consciousness The Bars Start?

Sometimes people ask about the origins of Access The Bars

How did Access Consciousness The Bars Start?

Access Bars are 32 points on the head that when gently touched release negative thoughts, feelings and emotions in all areas of life.

A lot of the time people who come for a Bars session are happy to simply relax and receive this nurturing, dynamic treatment and occasionally people ask:

How did Access Bars start?

Where did they come from?

Are they based on acupressure points or meridian lines?

Gary Douglas is the founder of Access Consciousness and The Bars was the very first element of the now much larger movement which is practiced in over 173 countries around the world.

Here’s Gary Douglas and Shannon O’Hara talking about how Access Consciousness The Bars started over 20 years ago:

Shannon is one of Gary’s children and I love the relaxed, playful style of interview which might not have been possible with someone less familiar.

Questions are part of the foundations of Access Consciousness. If you have any questions about this, feel free to put them in the comments, or ask me directly by clicking here.

Shannon goes on to question Gary deeper in two further videos regarding the beginnings and future of Access Consciousness:

This series of interviews about how Access Consciousness The Bars started were recorded over the holiday season at Gary’s home in Huston, Texas in January this year 2018.

I love the relaxed and gentle curiosity that Shannon brings to the interviews and the gentle teasing that an outside interviewer would not be able to pull off.

“Gary Douglas has felt defeated and crazy too. So whatever your vision is, never give up on it” Shannon

This is the third video where Shannon asks more questions about the origins of Access Bars and how Access Consciousness started. Right through to questions about the future of Access, what the next step could be and where Gary sees Access Consciousness growing in to the future.

What more do Gary and Dr Dain Heer, (the co-creator of Access) desire for the movement?

Where do they see Access expanding to?

Gary says it’s about the “Willingness to do anything. Never Give Up, Never Give In, Never Quit”

“If you change One Person dynamically, you change the world.” Gary

To find out what Access Bars could do for you CLICK HERE

The Magic Of Being In Allowance

The Space of Being in Allowance for Other People’s Choices

There are so many amazing tools in Access Conscious that have and continue to help me in every area of my life and I am hugely grateful for that.

The tool I’m going to talk about today is:

The Magic Of Being In Allowance of other people’s choices

I used to find it so easy to see where other people were getting it wrong.

I’d see what’s stopping them, what’s holding them back, what’s causing them pain and want to jump in and help them.

I’d want to take the pain away, remove the blockages – rip away boulders with my bare hands if necessary – so they could move more freely into where they said they wanted to go.

Especially when it came to my kids.

Even after they’d grown into independent adults, I’d still be doing my best to help them make the right choices.

If they ran out of money, I’d pay their way, lend them money I didn’t have and do my best to take away their pain.

That’s a mother’s job, isn’t it?

There was no question in my world.

When I went to my first Foundation Class and learnt about how everything is choice.

Even the crap that shows up.

And how no matter what is showing up in someone’s life, on some level they have chosen it.

My Noble intentions to save everyone in the world, I discovered, was making myself the saviour and them the helpless victim… otherwise known as Superior Bitch behaviour.

Me trying to take their problems away for them, no matter how noble my intentions (or how superior I was being) without their invitation or consent.. was not a contribution to them.

What if they weren’t wrong or broken for choosing what they’d chosen?

What if they’ve created it in their lives for a purpose that had nothing to do with me?

Often in the past I’d do everything I could to take away another person’s problem, even at great cost to me in time, health, energy or money (or all of the above)… only to discover they’d re-created the problem, pain or burden in a different way.

Whatever was showing up in their lives was theirs and it was also their choice to change it and choose beyond.

Not my business.

Not my problem.

Even if I cared deeply about them.

I had to learn about being in allowance of their choices.

Even if their choices led to illness and even death.

Their life. Their choice.

I could ask them questions.

I could invite them to a different possibility.

But I couldn’t be vested in the outcome. I couldn’t make them choose what I wanted for them, what I thought was right for them.

I had to be in allowance of them and their choices.

It didn’t mean I had to like their choices.

It didn’t mean I had to stick around them or be a doormat while they made their choices.

All I had to do was be in allowance of their choices.

I had to let go of my judgement that they were making the wrong choice.

I had to let go of my judgement that they needed to make the right choice.

I had to let go of my projections and expectations of what I wanted for them or the so much more that I knew they were capable of.

I had to lower my barriers.

I had to stop resisting and reacting to their choices.

Or aligning and agreeing with everyone who made them wrong.

It was a totally different way of being for me.

At first being in allowance was haaard.

I wanted so much more for them than they seemed to want for themselves and it felt like I was abandoning them and being a bad person for not jumping in and helping.

It went against everything I’d always believed in to step back, let go of all of the above, hold the space of allowance and simply ask questions.

Yet in that space of allowance I discovered a strange kind of magic.

My being in allowance instead of trying to “fix” things was an honouring of them.

A recognition and acknowledgement that they had the power in their lives.

That they could use their power (choice) to stay as they were or change their situation, at any time and in any way they chose.

Being in Allowance created space for new possibilities.

Especially with my children.

It’s created a space of ease with my children where they get the sense that I really do have their back, regardless of what they choose.

They don’t have to get it right.

They don’t have to have or be or do anything that they think I think they should do.

No hidden agendas or underlying emotional blackmail. Totally unconditional relationship. Space of Allowance.

And it’s made my life easier too.

Now that I’m no longer trying to carry everyone else’s burdens and take on everyone’s problems, my life has lightened up and there’s room for more fun and laughter and more of me.

Especially when I’m willing to be in Allowance of me too.

How does it get any better than that?

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